What is Domestic Violence?


Domestic violence (DV) is a pattern of abusive behaviors used by someone to establish power and control over another person in a relationship. Domestic violence sometimes follows a cyclical pattern in which there are periods of calm, building up of tension, and then abuse. After a period of abuse, batterers are often apologetic, but as the cycle repeats the abuse usually gets worse over time. If abusers recognize that their behavior is wrong and sincerely want to change the way they act, they can get help through batterer’s intervention programs, therapy, and spiritual counseling.


The statistics indicate that one in three women in the USA is, has been, or will be a victim of domestic violence. According to a study conducted in 1993 by Sharifa Alkhateeb, as president of the North American Council for Muslim Women (N.ACMW), physical violence occurs in about 10% of Muslim marriages in the USA. The rates of verbal and emotional abuse may be as high as 50% based upon international studies and preliminary research in the U.S.


Many people think that domestic violence does not affect children. However, children who are in households where domestic violence is happening have the same symptoms as children who are abused themselves. Domestic violence can cause long-term developmental, emotional and other problems in children.


Many immigrants fear they will lose their legal status or get deported if they seek help. Calling any of these organizations will not result in loss of status for the victim. Please call the organizations directly to get more information about your particular situation.

Younger Women

Domestic Violence calls are increasing tremendously in calls from young women and girls seeking help with domestic violence issues within their own homes, own cultures and/or their own ethnicities.

Teen dating violence is similar to adult relationship violence. The number of incidents and the severity of the abuse increase as the relationship continue. Dating violence affects about one in ten (10) teen couples. Very few tell anyone who could help them such as a parent, teacher, counselor or the police. It is very important to try and save our students/youths from this vicious cycle. We must try to instill in them a sense of dignity and respect towards one another and for oneself.